Why Should I Be Mindful?

Why Should I Be Mindful?

We need to understand being mindful as being more aware and acting with more presence and awareness.

The purpose of mindfulness is to expand our awareness of our behavior and our role in our environment.

Mindfulness has become such a hot topic because we have disconnected our minds from our bodies, so much and so often. We continue to technologically over-connect to the growing cyber-worlds, and over-develop our analytical abilities in the navigating of it.

As a result, we frequently disconnect from our core selves, from the messages of our body and from the subtle messages of nature.

Mindfulness leads to a more holistic way of living where we are in sync with ourselves and nature. We become better people, we develop spiritually in mindfulness and we learn to balance our material demands with the guidance of our spirits.

But how do we get there?

Any course on mindfulness will set you on the path to mindfulness.

You need to learn the techniques and you need to practice.

When you commit to change, you have to find the time to spend with yourself. You will need to slow down and close your eyes. Even a 10 minutes of breathing exercises will make you aware of your body.

Think of mindfulness meditation as giving a gift to yourself. You are giving loving care to your body and soul. You are increasing your awareness, and you are establishing a more solid connection with yourself.

You are also increasing your self-healing abilities, changing your perceptions, and increasing your joy.

Life will slowly start revealing itself in different ways.  What looked like grey, might start looking like green? What bothered you, will no longer bother you. Life will become easier. The way you deal with daily challenges will be less aggravating. You will slowly start forgiving others and accepting your experiences without emotional charge.

The moments and days you spend in mindfulness-present time will be longer and fuller, because you will start living with more joy.

The regular practice of slowing down and seeking a deeper connection to yourself is a work between you and you. When you start approving of yourself, loving yourself and making a difference in the lives of people, you will be firmly on the mindful path.

There is no end to it. All your life you will be starting over and over, and discovering more and more wisdom.

Is it worth it? Absolutely.

Mindfulness practice is a great way to dive into and savor the world of our greatest human possibilities, and explore its far reaches.

The essence of mindfulness is simple as well, just Be Here Now.

How to Love Better

How to Love Better

I am inviting everyone to start the New Year with a reflection on how to love better.

We don’t need to be in love to love. Although everyone loves to be in love. Even when you are in love, you can learn to love better.

The kind of love I have in mind here is Agape love, the broader more expansive love towards ourselves, others and the planet. How can we cultivate that love all of the time?

Everybody has love inside of them. You don’t need to search for it, you need to trust that you have an abundant amount of love to give and receive. We are wired to love and we are wired to respond to love with kindness.

Nobody can survive without love. If you take a look at your exchanges, love is everywhere around you. All day long we are exchanging love, like we are exchanging money. One we see, the other we feel and sense. A hello is love, a smile is love, nice words are love.

Always cultivate an open heart. I was in meditation today and was observing my heart. I know from personal experience that what happens when we have a conflict, experience a rejection or disappointment, is that we tend to close our hearts.

We close them because we are sad but also because it hurts to feel the pain and disappointment of rejection. This is exactly why we need to reverse our course, and stay open. By keeping our hearts open, we are nourishing them and allowing them to receive love from other sources, be it our pets, friends, parents, neighbors, and all of nature. Let the exchange of love keep flowing.

All our hearts are like giant flowers with petals. What happens to a flower when it is closed? We don’t see its essence, its colors, we can’t smell its fragrance. That is why we need to keep our hearts open and beautiful despite adversity. Our hearts are made to be appreciated. Everyone is worthy of love, everyone is worthy of receiving love. We are loving and lovable.

Cultivate the love you have. Let it grow. Love the small acts of love, they will grow your love.

As you expand your awareness, your love will expand. You will naturally make space for love to flourish inside of you. As you start to embrace your essence which the present moment reveals to you, love will replace what is not love inside of you….

So chirp your hearts out this New Year, and pay attention to the love that flows all around you.

 

 

A Few Words of Wisdom About Dating

A Few Words of Wisdom About Dating

We go on dates with ideas in our heads, and so much hope that things will turn well, thinking that maybe… our search and struggles will soon be over. But the reality is often something else, and we get stuck in a full range of emotions.

How do you get up when you are feeling down, when you go through experiences that are not matching your expectations, when you are tired of feeling disappointed after dates.

There is nothing wrong with having expectations or standards, we need them to guide us through life. But there are a few things we should do to get unstuck quickly after a bad date and keep going.

Learn to have neutrality about dating situations and always treat yourself with respect and compassion. The worst thing you can do is to start analyzing and feeling guilty. I should have done this, I should have said that. No matter what you said or did, it wasn’t an experience you were supposed to have.

It might have been a decision on both sides, even if it was unconscious. When someone doesn’t call you back, examine the truth, it might be you who is putting the brakes on, even if you were not consciously aware of it at the time.

It is what it is. I like this saying because It is a very present moment saying. Ok, so you met, and you can’t imagine being with each other. Simply put, you didn’t connect. Now, you are free to close this small chapter and move on.

In the meantime, feel grateful for the new lessons you are receiving. Make sure your heart stays open and ready to receive love. You are getting closer to the one who will make your heart soar. Trust life and trust your heart!

Do not give up because you have been through a bunch of dates and they haven’t been satisfactory. If you keep getting disappointed and feeling that you will never find a partner, it is time to stop the thinking all together.

Go out dancing or to a cafe with friends. Keep dreaming… a life without dreams is a life not worth living.

Take the advice you find, online or off, with a grain of salt. It is wonderful to become a better person in all venues of life. But no one has the answer for you. You have the answers for yourself. When you follow your spirit and your heart, you can become a powerful being.

When you start living from the heart and your truth, you won’t follow anyone else’s rules. You follow yours. Start experiencing today with no rules, only with the wisdom of your heart. And make sure that you are receptive to the unexpected and beautiful, everywhere, and with everyone.

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Your Thoughts Matter

Your Thoughts Matter

I would like you to think seriously about the things you say to yourself and others.
In a holistic world everything matters, and particularly the way we use our energy with our thoughts.

If the universe can spring out of nothingness, maybe our whole being can spring out of the thoughts we form in our minds. As we change our thought processes, we are constantly reshaping and retraining our minds.
 
Thoughts are energy travelling beyond space and time. And they are charged with emotions.
 
Your thoughts carry power. They can bring healing and abundance, or they can make you depressed.

They can put a smile on your face or they can send you into a downward spiral. They can uplift someone or they can crush someone.
 
So I am asking everyone tonight to pay attention to their thoughts and the way they use their energy.

 Try not to say or think anything bad about yourself.
We do it all the time, and we are not kind to ourselves. When you are doing it, be aware that your body listens, and it affects your overall energy. Every time you put yourself down, your energy level goes down. Start elevating yourself with good and upbeat thoughts. The true and loving you doesn’t criticize your body or your mistakes. Start downloading some nourishing thoughts for your body. You will love it and your life will change for the better.
 
Every day reinforce the positives in your life.
Validate yourself. Stop for 10 seconds what you are doing and write or say 10 positive things about your life and yourself. See the beauty of your experiences and your encounters, or reflect on the lessons you are receiving. That is beautiful in itself.
 
That way you will slowly stop criticizing and start embracing curiosity.
Hmm, things and people are interesting… They behave differently. So when we shift to a place of curiosity, our critical voice diminishes. We observe and notice, but we don’t send bad energy with our thoughts.
 
There is a reason we see in color.
If you observe any color for example, it creates a certain mood in you. So next time you are about to be really hard on yourself or someone else, chose to stay in silence and give yourself a healing bath of meditative color to shift your thoughts instantaneously. 

How to Become More Empathetic

How to Become More Empathetic

Most people would probably agree that our world needs empathy.

The dictionary defines empathy as the action and the capacity of understanding, being aware of, and being sensitive to the feelings, thoughts, and experiences of another person.

As humans we are wired to be empathetic because we can feel our own pain, thus the pain of other human beings or animals. We can deeply understand their distress. But if we are wired for empathy, why so many people lack empathy? 

One might argue that our culture – with its emphasis on mental and technological progress – has cut us off from our emotions and our bodies. We spend most of our time thinking, analyzing and not really listening to the silent messages of the heart and body. Because we spend so much time on our computers and at our desks, we can easily become isolated in our heads, and that means less time in person or within real life communities.
 
Psychologists talk of three types of empathy. Cognitive empathy is when you can put yourself in somebody else’s shoes. We cognitively understand what they are going through. Though this is important, it is not enough.
 
Emotional empathy is when you feel and sympathize with the feelings and emotions of others. We need this capacity to maintain relationships and friendships. But emotional empathy can be treacherous for sensitive people. Taking in, into your body, somebody’s else emotions and pain – can cause you to become ill.
 
I heard a radio host yesterday apologizing for not talking about the tragedy in Texas. She explained it like this… “I feel too much pain. I am in an overload of pain after months of tragedies. I can’t go there.”
 
Feeling the pain of others is an essential component of good health. But it is important to be able to separate one’s emotions from other people’s emotions. And this can be difficult for a lot of people.
 
To have healthy empathy, we must transition into Compassion. With compassion we understand and we feel for someone else, but we also understand that we need to stay whole in order to be a healthy and helpful resource for others. Compassion is felt more in the heart. It is an invisible silent thread that is felt between people. We are extending our heart to someone else’s heart. 

Compassionate people are in control of their emotions. They can be very helpful in bringing about wise solutions. They are helpful with their sheer and trustworthy presence.

So to increase empathy and compassion, I would suggest to start with yourself.
Ask yourself how much empathy you have for yourself? Are you hard and unforgiving of yourself? Do you feel a lot of guilt all the time? Self-reflect and meditate on yourself often.

Also, remember episodes where you lacked empathy for others? Were you afraid or unware? Always ask why and wait for the answers to emerge from deep silence. There is no need to go into the past. But by remembering your aha moments of your past, you can illuminate your future.
 
Changing ourselves is a process. The most important thing is to be committed to transformation and to realize that your most important task on this planet is to become more human and to be of service.